A man lasting in bed simply means that he can control his orgasm
as long as ‘’ he needs to ‘’, this could be until the woman orgasms,
or until he wants to climax.
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There is this old joke about men ‘’thinking about baseball’’
whenever they want to last longer in bed such thoughts take their
minds off what they are doing and therefore delay what their body
wants to have happen.
Though it is often said that guys who last longer in bed are
considered to be virile, and manly, but this is a paternalistic notion
which usually does not take in to account what the lady wants.
A recent study postulated that women get maximum enjoyment
from penetration that does not exceed ten or eleven minutes, after
which it becomes painful, boring or both. Anyone who goes on for a
long time after the woman is done physically, sexually, mentally or
emotionally is in it only for himself.
So, lasting longer in bed means you last longer than the average
male during normal and consistent insertion. The average length of
time for a consistent penetrative sex is about 7 minutes, anything
short of this shows you are not lasting in bed by these metrics. An
average female tends to desire about 15 minutes of consistent
penetrative intercourse.
There are actually tricks that can help a man last longer – from
desensitizing agents, cock rings tactics; these are part of what you
need to last longer in bed.
-Condom actually can be of help in two ways; the first beeing that it
works as small cock rings while the second is that, it can give less
sensitive feeling and both of which can assist with you lasting
longer.
There are other ways to pleasure your partner in bed other than
intercourse : you have got two hands, mouth and few other parts
depending on what you and your spouse love to indulge in. To cut a
long story short, staying longer in bed naturally means you are
lasting more than 15 to 20 minutes in regards to copulation.
Whichever way, do not feel bad as the average is about 3minutes
which means that quite a few number of men fall into this category.
A number of men usually find it very easy to climax than their
female counterparts, coupled with the fact that quick ejaculation is
one of the most commonest sexual disorder in males under 40
years of age.
This explains why women will always find themselves unsatisfied;
especially, as it can be a let-down if the fun ends before it often
starts.
Here are tips to help him finish the act:
Get him to start slowly.
Men’s magazine suggests, you ‘’ tell him to aim for one thrust every
few seconds, then gradually, [ like every two minutes ] take it up a
notch, to a point where there’s a thrust every second or so. If he
feels like he’s going to come, he should stop thrusting and wait a
few seconds until he can control himself and start over again.
Be sure to do it again and again, a round of powerful foreplay
before lovemaking can perform wonders. According to
Cosmopolitan magazine, not only can you orgasm, which might
make you more likely to come again during sex, but getting him to
ejaculate before the main event should delay the finish line. For
many guys, it takes a certain amount of time to ‘’recharge’’, which
means you should have plenty of time to be satisfied.
You probably might have heard of KEGEL [ men too can do this ]
and yoga exercises. These help to strengthen your pelvic floor
muscles thereby, improving your chance of orgasm. These exercise
can also help in treating premature ejaculation in men. A research
presented recently at the European Association of Urology in
Stockholm, found that pelvic exercise improved premature
ejaculation after 12 weeks in most men.
Try using condom. Majority of guys really do not like wearing
condom because it does not feel as good as the real thing, and as
a result, find it quite difficult to climax. Love-making with condom,
definitely, feels different, so take advantage of this to make your
spouse last longer. The sensations on his penis will be slightly
weaker with a condom on it, this will naturally lead to a longer sex
session.
Always switch sex position; just in case your partner has a move
that always sets him off- change positions. Cosmopolitan suggest
missionary style or girl on top, which can help many men delay the
finale. When you have been together for a while, there is the
tendency that your routine sex styles can make his body anticipate
coming, thereby releasing sooner than expected. New sex positions
and sensations will help to distract him and make him last longer.
Avoid masturbation. Most men masturbate and this has become a
habit for some of them. Funny enough, this is one root cause of
quick ejaculation problem.
Allow him to introduce sex toys, it may seem like cheating but this
should not matter when it has to do with you both having orgasms.
If he cannot stay long enough to the end, you wait until he is close.
Then, let him tag out and use the vibrator on you. You can tag back
in when you are both close to the finishing line.
Eat healthy diet: Drink a cup of water first thing in the morning, take
more fruits, vegetable, reduce you intake of red meat and alcohol.
Do about 15 minutes exercises when you wake up, it could be
jogging or walking.
In some situations, your spouse can actually try and see a
professional. Variety of prescriptions are readily available if
premature ejaculation is a serious issue that is negatively affecting
your relationship. Try by all means to avoid supplements across the
counter, instead, your best bet is to check with a urologist to see
what the issue is, and what steps are to be taken.
In the end, there are quite a lot of ways that you can assist your
man in achieving sexual fulfillment for both of you. Satisfaction and
orgasm are two parallel things just as lasting in bed is not the be-
all, end-all of sexual prowess. Communication and the readiness to
please one another are gets you closer to the mark.
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